Today I turn forty-five, and I am beautiful.
I put on my black dress pants with that forgiving 6% lycra blend, my black boots, and my green silk scarf. I spritz on perfume from an old (but still heavenly-scented) bottle of Clinique Happy, since the burglars made off with the more recent, expensive bouquets. I am free to go into Paris for lunch with my husband because my two students miraculously both canceled. We head in the direction of the Champs Elysées.
We stop at the FNAC store and I discover a DVD series on sale that has all the A&E Jane Austen movies in one set for only 35€. Of course, I’ve already seen Pride and Prejudice a number of times, as well as Mansfield Park. But there are four other movies to discover, and my mother-in-law has just given me a moderate sum to spend as I please.
I am so pleased.
We get an early reservation at an intimate brasserie that is known for its french fries “à tombé par terre” – to fall to the ground for – and for its roast spring chicken.
I start with a green salad, and finish with a café gourmand (an espresso with mini crème brulée and a homemade applesauce that is served in the tiniest mason jar you’ve ever seen). I cannot finish my french fries, as delicious as they are.
On our way home, we make a pit-stop at la Maison du Chocolat for a very small box of decadent chocolates that will not be eaten in one sitting.
And they give us both a free sample of raspberry-filled chocolate.
I am forty-five, and I am far from being at my ideal weight. But I am soft when you hug me, and my smile reaches my eyes.
My hair is thinner than it once was, but I am still growing it out a little so I can pull it up off my shoulders. And I will wear the tiny pendant earrings, the colour of my eyes, that my husband gave me and which swing playfully next to my cheeks.
The too-tight wedding rings that have been sitting in my jewellery box for fourteen years – tucked inside the folds where the slapdash robbers did not find them – are now at the jeweller being sized up so that I can finally wear them once more.
Will I punish myself forever for not being able to return to my wedding weight? No. Size those babies up and make me an honest woman again. 😉
My wrinkles become more pronounced, rather than disappear. My chin begins to sag a bit – and my belly too. This body has been inefficient at burning calories for a long time; but it brought three souls into the world, and still serves me for brisk walks along the Seine in the autumn leaves.
The wrinkles are also years of wisdom, and they are laugh lines, and my body is a soft landing place for all the hugs that come my way. I don’t want to be twenty again with my whole uncertain life before me, and all the doubts large before my eyes. I don’t want to be another woman, who stops traffic with her beauty but wonders if her husband loves her for anything deeper than that.
How can my life, as is, be anything but beautiful?
Today I turn forty-five, and I don’t wish to go back in time. I love the Jennie that is right here. The one that is as is.
JacquiFVD says
a beautiful post from a beautiful lady. Happy birthday Jennie x
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ladyjennie says
Merci Jacqui!!
Sherri says
Oh, Jennie, this is fabulous… perfect, actually. Because why don’t we live in the now more often? Now is where it’s at, and to enjoy your days, your rings, your Happy perfume is what life’s all about. Happy Birthday… and many more. xo
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ladyjennie says
Thank you! Thank you! I have to remember it too because already the sentiment is slipping just a little bit now that the mundane has settled back into place. O_o
Andrea says
Sounds like a perfect day. Happy Birthday! 🙂
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ladyjennie says
Oh, you know – just your average day in Paris.
Elaine A. says
Oh Jennie, this post made me cry. It is so beautiful, as are you, inside and out. I love that you posted this reflection on your birthday.
I’m glad you were able to spend it with your hubby and enjoy it so much. Love and best wishes on your birthday.
And that photo with your kids – priceless!
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ladyjennie says
Thank you, dear Elaine.
Ameena says
A very Happy Birthday to you. I can’t think of a better way to celebrate than to have fries and chocolate!
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ladyjennie says
Seriously. Oh! I have to give you the address to this restaurant too.
Kristin Shaw says
I love the Jennie that you are now, I love the Jennie that you were yesterday, and I love the Jennie that you will be tomorrow.
xoxo
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ladyjennie says
This is the Red Bull of encouragement. 😀
Alison says
Happy Birthday, Jennie!
I love you. Whatever age you are or how you look on the outside, because inside, you are YOU. XO
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ladyjennie says
Love you. 🙂
Hillary says
“My smile reaches my eyes” – that is a very important thing. I have laugh lines, too, and tired lines from years of interrupted sleep that I know you understand; sometimes I wish I could banish them, but they make us more interesting to others, right? This was a lovely post, and it sounds like you had a lovely day.
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ladyjennie says
Yes, I think the wrinkles are there for a reason, and they are (mostly) not horrid.
Tamara says
How completely beautiful, like you are!
Happy 45 to you.
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ladyjennie says
Thank you, sweet Tamara.
Tracie says
I love this and you. Both are beautiful.
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ladyjennie says
Thank you Tracie.
anymommy says
I love her too. Happy, happy birthday.
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ladyjennie says
Thank you, lovely, lovely friend.
Korinthia says
Happy Birthday! I’m 45 too. It’s good. I think you’ll enjoy it.
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ladyjennie says
Hey! *fist bump* 🙂
Kerstin @ Auer Life says
Happy Birthday, my beautiful friend! You are exactly as you should be 🙂
I recently turned 43 and would not want to turn back time a single day – so I get exactly what you mean. Love you!
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ladyjennie says
It’s good, right? The twenties and even thirties were so rocky.
Anna says
I agree with the other comments – this is a lovely post! Cheering to the heart! It’s great you had a special day! Also, Jane Austen to watch – yay! I love ‘Persuasion’.
ladyjennie says
I’ve read the book a bunch of times but haven’t seen the movie yet. Can’t wait!
Anna says
Thank you for your reply. I’m sorry, I meant to post this reply sooner. I really like the book, too! Isn’t it wonderful?! I like the filmed version that was shown on the front of your set of DVDs – I think the cast are really good. Wasn’t too sure about how they changed it a bit right at the end though. Hope you enjoy watching it/have enjoyed it!
Anna says
Happy Birthday!!! (Sorry I forgot to say it in the comment above!)
Petrina says
Honestly, of all the great posts and articles you have written this is the best an favorite for me. Happy Birthday Love.
ladyjennie says
My dear old friend. 🙂
Alexandra says
Happy (belated) birthday! I loved this post, both the way it is written and its message. I’ve been a reader for awhile and started following your blog because I believe you are a kindred spirit 🙂 Thank you for sharing your stories!
ladyjennie says
Well anyone who would use the phrase “kindred spirit” is most definitely one of mine! 😉
Thank you for being here and for leaving a comment, Alexandra.
Nina says
Beautiful– both YOU and your words and this message.
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ladyjennie says
Thank you Nina!
Kir says
The happiest of Birthdays and years to a woman who is strong, beautiful and wonderful in every way.
Falling in love with yourself and your place in the world is the perfect way to spend the day welcomed you. I , for one, am so glad the universe crossed your beautiful soul’s path with mine.
xo
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ladyjennie says
Me too Kir.
Tinne from Tantrums and Tomatoes says
A very happy birthday Jennie!! Three big kisses and a hug!
You look stunning!
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ladyjennie says
Of course! Trois bisous! 🙂
Amanda says
I love this! So happy for you! XOXO
ladyjennie says
Love you, my dear ole friend.
Melanie Pickett says
This is a lovely glimpse into your life and France. Instead of grumbling over my soft middle, I will know proclaim that “soft landing place” for my children to hug and find comfort. I can’t wait to visit France. Maybe I’ll run into you there. 🙂
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ladyjennie says
It’s so exciting that you’re coming to France soon!
Ayala says
Happy Birthday beautiful lady!
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ladyjennie says
Thank you, dear Ayala. 🙂
Sunny says
Love this! I turned 50 this summer and felt much the same. Actually took a trip to your Paris the same month. Ps: my daughter and i found that same DVD set and have watched the first two. Its different versions from the BBC or the Hollywood versions ive seen before and fun for a change 🙂
ladyjennie says
Hi Sunny! So you were in my city, huh? It seems we share much in common – a love for the “fuller” season in life, for France, and for Jane Austen. 🙂
Sunny says
Yes, my ten year old daughter and i were there in june, visiting from Alaska. You and I communicated at the time, cant recall the subject. We had a lovely time wondering, shopping, eating etc. :-). Went to Normandy area too. Missed versailles due to train strike (ive been there, and turns out my girls hates castles so it was ok! lol).
ladyjennie says
Oh shoot! I’m so sorry for having forgotten. 🙂
Heather Hultgren says
Bravo! I am right here with you, in spirit, and I too would not go back to being 20 again. There is a new beauty that comes with experience, growth, and love. And it is a grand treasure. As are you. Both a beauty and a treasure. Happy Birthday!
ladyjennie says
Well said Heather, and a very heartfelt thank you for your sweet, encouraging words.
Kara says
This is beautiful. Happy belated birthday.
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ladyjennie says
Thank you so much Kara. 🙂
julie gardner says
The weeks slip by without my reading any blog posts and then I come here, see this and smile:
“I don’t want to be another woman, who stops traffic with her beauty but wonders if her husband loves her for anything deeper than that.”
This is perfect.
You are the perfect Jennie.
You are loved.
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ladyjennie says
Thank you Julie. I miss you!!! Happy holidays. 🙂